Many men still have problems saying what they feel unless it’s some form of anger that they’re experiencing. This is responsible for many relationship issues because, whether you like it or not, women LIKE hearing that their men care about them. Yes, that’s right, men. You’re going to HAVE to say I love you.
At this moment, you’re most likely protesting loudly that you do things like clean up after yourself, do the laundry, cook meals, and buy her things for those special occasions. In addition, you’re 100 percent faithful and never look at other women. You have a good job and do your part financially. Now, aren’t those things showing your women that you love them? Sure, it does show them. But you still have to SAY it once in a while.
That doesn’t mean that you can just respond with “Me, too” when she says “I love you.” This doesn’t cut it and you’ve probably seen that hurt look on her face more than once. Yes, you know the one and YOU caused it to be there. Does it really take anything away from you to say those three tiny words once in a while? What would you do if she were on her deathbed and said “I love you?” Would you really let her go into the great beyond with nothing from you except a “Me, too?” If you’re even considering that question, shame on you!
For those men among you that feel it’s not “manly” to say “I love you,” think again. Even those men that are huge Nascar fans, hunt for two or three weeks every season, work on cars, indulge in bodybuilding and never miss a single football game of their favorite teams find time to work in the occasional “I love you” to their wives and girlfriends. So what’s wrong with you that you can’t find it within yourself to tell the woman that’s supposed to be the most important person in your life how you feel about her?
It may be that you have intimacy issues that keep you from being able to make yourself that vulnerable to the one person on earth that you should trust the most. She must have been a very patient and understanding woman to be with you even though you never tell her you love her. Think about how much SHE must love YOU if she’s with you in spite of the fact that you don’t say “I love you.” Doesn’t she deserve to hear that from you at least sometimes?
Something else you should consider while you’re making up excuses for why you don’t say those important words is that there ARE men in the world that don’t have your paralysis. They tell their women they love them all the time! If you don’t start stepping up to the plate once in a while, your wife or girlfriend may find a man who WILL say “I love you,” and won’t keep her guessing as to how he feels. If that happens, you may wish you had spoken up.